One problem that often pops its head in couples’ therapy is someone not “hearing” what the other person is saying. The person is “listening,” but they don’t “hear” it right. Does that make sense? (See what I did there?) Sometimes we assume we know what the other person is saying without actually … [Read more...]
Beware of the BUT
I’ve always been a “but” guy and never really knew it until recently. (And yes, I meant it to be with one “t” because I’m talking about the “but” and not the “butt.” I’ve never been a “butt” guy. Even when I was young and single, I wasn’t a “butt” guy; I was more of “hot girl” guy. I didn’t like … [Read more...]
Slow to Launch or Not Likely to Launch
After my wife and I were engaged, her one aunt went to her privately and asked, “Are you sure you want to marry Chad when he doesn’t have his life together?” Why do I know this? Because my wife told me something that should’ve been kept private. Fortunately, she didn’t tell me about this until … [Read more...]
Why Women Struggle to be in the Trades
This post could have easily been called “Why Men Don’t Knit.” Choosing this title, however, I followed the shock value marketing strategy of people like Gene Simmons and Eminem (so I’m basically a rockstar... obviously). Please know this title is not to claim women “can’t” be in the trades. I’ve … [Read more...]
The Four Most Important Apologizing Rules
I’ve recently figured out the four most important rules to apologizing (I’m sorry I didn’t figure them out sooner). It came out of the fact that apologizing is a major complaint for most couples I see as a psychotherapist. The complaints almost always come in twos. The first is the apology … [Read more...]
Eye Rolling Destroys Relationships
I’m going to assume you know what I mean when I write “eye rolling.” To be safe, let me point out I’m not referencing a new-age eye exercise where you move your eyes around in circles to improve your chakras or a strange zombie game where you roll eyeballs down a lane like bowling. (Did you just … [Read more...]
Stop Saying I Don’t Care
Last week my family came home late after the weekly in-laws’ movie night and as my wife and I were getting things put away, I asked her if she wanted to have her shower first or if I should. Her response was, “I don’t care.” It was said in the “I’m in the middle of something and not really paying … [Read more...]
50 Reasons Someone May Not like Me
A friend once told me, “If everyone likes you, you’re boring and irrelevant.” He proudly has a few people not like him. It’s an interesting idea. If everyone likes me, I’m essentially living a life of beige – there’s nothing that interesting about me (no offence if you love beige... I’m obviously … [Read more...]
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