Last week I wrote that men can be oblivious, and I proved that really well with my previous week’s lesson on communication where I wrote about a friend’s situation. From a therapist perspective, I thought it was one of my more practical and helpful lessons. From a personal level… it sucked. I was … [Read more...]
I was Wrong about Christians
I owe Christians (even though I am one) an apology for how I used to see them. Like all young people, I used to see things as very black and white, and one such way was how I saw people as either Christian or not Christian. There was no real grade of Christian. You could be new, stagnant and … [Read more...]
Beware of the BUT
I’ve always been a “but” guy and never really knew it until recently. (And yes, I meant it to be with one “t” because I’m talking about the “but” and not the “butt.” I’ve never been a “butt” guy. Even when I was young and single, I wasn’t a “butt” guy; I was more of “hot girl” guy. I didn’t like … [Read more...]
The Four Most Important Apologizing Rules
I’ve recently figured out the four most important rules to apologizing (I’m sorry I didn’t figure them out sooner). It came out of the fact that apologizing is a major complaint for most couples I see as a psychotherapist. The complaints almost always come in twos. The first is the apology … [Read more...]