Are you a good person? There’s a chance you are or at one point have been a turd bucket. That’s not a great way to start a lesson (although I bet it got your attention). If it helps, I used to regularly be a turd bucket. I wasn’t the best at it since my compassion has always been a little low … [Read more...]
Anger: The Exploding Kind
I’m obsessed with scales... no, it’s not a weight thing. It’s hard to care about weight when your main dietary source is carbs and the second is cookies. I’m obsessed with scales for understanding things: Is it too much, too little, or just right? Who knew the author of Goldilocks and the Three … [Read more...]
What Type of Aggressive are You?
I used to be scared of aggressive people, but now I love them. I better considering my wife is aggressive. Actually, she’s an interesting mix. She only appears aggressive with a select lucky few (yea, for special treatment). I used to be scared of aggressive people because I grew up scared of … [Read more...]
Why I’m Scared to be Canadian
Canada used to be known for being friendly and kind; now (at least in the GTA) it seems the meanest people win. Traditionally, Canadians have been held as passive. We do peacekeeping and avoid conflict as much as possible even if that means taking a hit. As comedian Danny Boy joked, Canada is the … [Read more...]
Dealing with Victim Mentalities (which sucks)
Here’s the question I keep being faced with the last couple weeks: Are they being the victim or playing the victim? In my book Emotional Sex: Making good relationships great, I point out that we want to be the victor and not the victim, we want to do what we can to help ourselves and not just act … [Read more...]
It’s Always 50% Your Fault
In therapy I have found there are two main groups of people. There are the ‘it’s all my fault’ people who are brilliant at making everything that goes wrong somehow their fault. I once had someone apologize for the weather and admitted they felt responsible for it not being nicer out. This type … [Read more...]